Sometimes talking to a stranger reveals insights in oneself that do not manifest even when confiding with a best friend. There is a natural reticence to exposing our vulnerabilities.  Pride and embarrassment often prevent us from telling intimacies about ourselves to our immediate  family and friends. 

And if we do disclose these, 'secrets', the response elicited from such revelations may not actually  be answers at all.  Or advice.  The reply may be tempered by a point of view or closeness or previous knowledge of your situation. 

Asking Auntie Jane for comment has none of these restraints or preconceived notions regarding your personal needs or wants.  Her answers are forthright and sincere based upon the directness of your query. Perhaps not always the suggestion you want to hear, but given with wisdom, understanding and insightful thought that you too can solve whatever dilemma is causing shadow in your life. 

Give her the pertinent information and be honest with yourself, there is an answer.   There is a solution. Keep the faith. She will respond to all.

Asking Auntie Jane with her life experience,  just may guide you to resolve your troubles.

Send your personal questions to -  askauntiejane@hotmail.com

K and C

Dear K and C- 

   What a nice normal couple, sex is suppose to be fun and boisterous.  You could pass on the jokes so we all can laugh too.

Auntie Jane

Irene

Dear Irene  - 

    Have you tried putting on your housecoat with nothing on underneath and going out in the cold garage and ask him if he would please keep you warm with some loving? If that doesn't work blow up his car and lose the competition.

Auntie Jane

Harry

Dear Harry - 

   How many times have I heard that my wife doesn't understand me. Yes she does get half of everything, but are you only giving her a half hearted effort in the bedroom? I get a distinct feeling that perhaps you might expect her to be pleasing you when it should be mutual. You could visit a sexual counselor together. Or she could go see her gynecologist to see if she has something wrong for her not to attain many climaxes having sex. If she is fine then maybe you need to learn a few techniques on how to turn her on and enjoy sex with you. OMO.

Auntie Jane

Eleanor

Dear  Eleanor - 

   Glad your entertained and jump right in,  after all you are anonymous. You  don't have to take my advice, just my opinion and I certainly have those. lol

Auntie Jane

Christina

Dear Christina - 

   If this guy hasn't paid any attention to you in six months, you should have got the message by now. He probably has someone at home that is more interesting than you. Just for the future never go to a bar that a guy goes to with his buddies hoping to get picked up. Look for another place to hunt.

Auntie Jane

Sue

Dear  Sue - 

   I don't see any reason why not, hopefully you and your ex are on speaking terms and still get along. If it was an amicable separation he probably won't mind. Although at this point it's none of his business. If it was a messy divorce it may be a good idea to find some new friends to date.  Or if you're into vengeance you could do ALL his friends.  Kidding of course ...................... Maybe not!.

Auntie Jane

Bev

Dear  Bev - 

   And many of these people walk amongst us. 

Auntie Jane

Sara

Dear  Sara - 

   Your walking a narrow line here, what happens if you do fall in love with a lover. At fifty I am assuming your life is established with a loving husband and children. Ask yourself is it because your just feeling bored, going through the change of life or just want more male attention. If you answer yes to all three find another hobby.

Auntie Jane

Caitlin

Dear Caitlin - 

   If he has been having unprotected sex with all the office and your even contemplating going to bed with him your crazy. You don't say you love you're husband, if your not in love with him why stay married? Marriage is not all about sex, but it certainly helps a relationship. Maybe its you not pushing the right buttons for him.

Auntie Jane

Kate's family

Dear K F- 

   Very simply  don't invite them this year and let them all fight in someone else's house.

Auntie Jane

Connie

Dear  Connie - 

   Maybe bring up the subject with him. It's early in the relationship at this point to buy each other a gift, could suggest a dinner out to celebrate" Dutch" treat. Or a nice bottle of wine for a toast to each other.

Auntie Jane

Kelly and Ron

Dear  Kelly and Ron - 

   You ask who is the crazy one. I would say your Mom and you. Your Mom sounds like she hasn't let go of you and you sound like a spoiled brat. It might take longer to get your own place, but then Ron would still be with you to enjoy it. Children revert back to kids when they go back home to live with their parents, not a good scenario.   

Auntie Jane

Lacy

Dear  Lacy - 

   Yes I have, my definition would be that you love orgasms and every chance you have of having one you take it. Maybe  they are just  jealous  

Auntie Jane

Anonymous

Dear Anonymous - 

   You must know already that it would be cheating or you would have signed your name. You must have told this friend about your lack on orgasms, isn't that a flirt.  If you want me to say go ahead fine, but it is still classified as cheating but then again its only a orgasm. 

Auntie Jane

Alisha

Dear Alisha - 

   What your parents do is really not your concern. Maybe your Mom knows and just doesn't want to deal with it. Tell your Dad that you would like to talk to him about it and if he wants to he will. Otherwise leave it alone.

Auntie Jane

L@M

Dear L@M - 

    You say you have a good marriage, will it be good after you both see each with other partners? Only the two of you can decide this. Thoughts or talking about it is still in the 'fantasy' area, no harm no foul, but  if you do go ahead then make sure you have protected sex and no pictures. They could come back to haunt both parties later. To each his own.

Auntie Jane

Anonymous

Dear Anonymous - 

   I don't think your weird, you just seem to know what you like. Nothing wrong with that.

Auntie Jane

Kate @ Leila

Dear K@L - 

   Sorry I'm not a mind reader, why not just go with the flow and enjoy each others company for the time. Sometimes it will fade out or maybe not. 

Auntie Jane

Ken

Dear  Ken - 

   Some women need hormones to get past this stage. Hopefully she will go see her doctor as there is no reason for you both not to have a active sex life as she is going through this natural progression in life. Some women get more sexually active when going through menopause, some don't. Be patient and maybe try stimulating her more before the act. One suggestion keep the bedroom window open for a natural draft.

Auntie Jane

Best friend

Dear BF - 

   Be a best friend and keep your mouth shut. Just because someone is having a coffee together doesn't mean that anything else is going on. 

Auntie Jane

Ben

Dear Ben - 

   Same advice to you Ben, hope you get better service from the waiters though. Live, laugh and be happy.  

Auntie Jane

Marty

Dear Marty - 

   Sounds like they have help to keep them in their own place. Older people do much better when living together on their own unless their health is not good. You can always get help to come in more often if you see that they are not eating properly and taking care of their hygiene. Until that time arrives leave them to enjoy their time together.   

Auntie Jane

Fuming wife

  Some men just love to flirt as it builds their ego. At least he isn't doing it behind your back and it's out in the open. He is probably harmless and likes to see the reaction if any he gets back from the women he is flirting with.  Ignore him and don't you react and he may stop, just don't count on it. 

Auntie Jane

Sad and lonely

Dear  SAL - 

   Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get out and join things that interest you. You have to realize your life has changed and will never be the same without your husband, but life goes on and it's up to you to make an effort to socialize or you will end up an old uninteresting women. Why not go out with this man that calls, he might have just been making conversation. You have no children so why worry about your assets at this stage. Its acceptable for you to call him too.

Auntie Jane

Want sex on Sundays

Dear  WSS - 

   Its your husbands parents let him deal with them. He can say you both will try and make it once a month. Then after brunch go home and enjoy the rest of your day together. No reason newly weds cannot make time through the week too. Or maybe you just don't want to go see his family and using this as an excuse. Your call.

Auntie Jane

Sexy in Nevada

Dear SIN  - 

 Only you can decide, Pandora, sounds like he has an itch that he wants scratched.   

Auntie Jane

Grandmother and Granddad .

Dear  GAG  - 

   Just because you're grandparents doesn't mean you are dead from the waist down. BUT, the key words for me were, "... you felt like twenty again."  It would be considered cheating if you decided to have sex before or after the drinks.  I have a feeling you have already made up your mind.

 “Anything worth having is a thing worth cheating for.”
~ W. C. Fields

Auntie Jane

Erin

Dear Erin - 

   Why would you bother with these people? Tell them all it's one day to get along and get through. If they can't do that then to stay home. If some choose not to come it's their loss. If you have friends with no family invite them,  sometimes people will be on their best behavior when strangers are around. They'll want to pretend they're better than yelling and screaming, and you can pretend you're enjoying the day.

Auntie Jane

good good neighbors

Dear  N- 

   I would tell her to mind her own business and keep her gossip to herself. What you do is none of anyone's business, and tell her to go find a hobby and stay out of your life. Maybe she is jealousy, that she isn't getting any of the neighbors action.

Auntie Jane

MMV

Dear MMV - 

   Simple, stop giving him  BJ's . I'm sure he will come to realize both of you should be enjoying yourselves.

Auntie Jane

I got an e-mail saying you shouldn't have to quit your job.

    The person commented that you can buy a lot of crème for the bruises . So take either advice.

Auntie Jane

Kathy K

Dear Kathy K - 

Guess you have to decide if the tips are worth the bruises. Or get another job.

Auntie Jane

  My boyfriend dumped me three months ago while I was looking after my dying Dad. I was left a large amount in his will. Now my boyfriend wants me to come back to him, I don't know if it's me or the money he is interested in. Should I consider taking him back?  

Money or me

Dear  MOM - 

 HELLO, give you're head a shake, of course it's the money. If it is a large amount get some financial advice and not from him.

Auntie Jane

Richard

Dear  Richard - 

   Maybe get Mommy to arrange a play date, or pay a call girl and get what you're looking for.   

Auntie Jane

Rachael

Dear  Rachael  - 

    If he treats you like this and you're not even married what happens if you get married? A relationship isn't about him getting satisfied with sex and a pizza and his sports programs. You need to be wined and dined and romanced. If he is not willing to be that person dump him and move on with you're life. 

Auntie Jane

Markus

Dear Markus - 

   There are many fetishes, so no harm if she allows you the pleasure. If I were her I would make sure I had a pedicure beforehand though.

Auntie Jane

Mavis

   It would not hurt to notify the police, so it's on record. Has there been any action at the bank with withdrawals? They must have money to survive. I would withdraw all moneys and check your credit cards. Tell your neighbor to do the same, then at least you will hear from them when they run short of money. It is only you that can decide what to do when they surface. Make it clear to your jilted neighbor that you have no interest in starting a revenge relationship with him. Oh yes, and change your locks, campers get musty in the winter.

Auntie Jane

Patty

   Not all guys are pigs, did you find this one in a sty. Move on, there are many nice guys out there and you deserve better than the oinks he has to offer.

Auntie Jane

Mark

   Did you leave your balls at the job? You need to tell her not to make plans before she checks with you. Retirement is to be enjoyed by both of you, so make it clear that you intend to have your own time without her. She needs to get involved without you beside her everyday. Show her this answer.  

Auntie Jane

Group of eight

   Are you the only one that thinks this way in your group? I look at my friends as great dinner companion with good conversation to break bread with and could care less at what they choose to serve me. You say that these friends are cheap, have you ever considered what they serve is what they can afford and maybe  they're not  the best cooks. You can go out for dinner anytime for a gourmet meal  and miss the friendship of good people, that are called friends. You could drop them from your menu but might find that something is missing. With your snobbish attitude I wouldn't be interested in your program.

Auntie Jane

Molly

   Four years of college for him and maybe eight more for you to finish school and college. I would suggest to him that maybe you both should see others and see him at Christmas. If your meant to be together in the end it will happen, but you both should enjoy the teenage years. Doesn't mean that you cannot communicate with Skype and texting while apart.

Auntie Jane

Sandra

Dear  Sandra -  

   He doesn't seem to be committed to you, like you are to him.  I would tell him to move out and decide if you are the one for him. Better to find this out before you start making wedding plans. Why would he want marriage when he has everything now without it.  

Auntie Jane

Cass

   Maybe they have talent. And you didn't have to tell me you where blond.

Auntie Jane

Frank

   Why would either of you move? Are you afraid he might jump your bones while sleeping. Grow up he was gay before you knew he was gay. Some people would call you homophobic.

Auntie Jane

Persia

   Go to your school counselor when you get back to school, tell her about your problems.  I am sure it is hard for your parents to make adjustment in their lifestyle because they were brought up so differently. Your father has to be made to understand that he has to give his children freedom or he will lose them as they grow older. Ask your brother to talk to him as a male and that you and your sister respect him but he also has to respect you two girls in return. If your mother is not happy to cover her face then she has to speak up and be heard in your household. I am sure your father came to this country to make a better life for all of you. Hopefully he will see his mistakes before it's too late.

Auntie Jane

Lilly

    I'm sure he noticed you and has moved on to someone else who may be a bit more hard to get. You should move on and think twice about sleeping with someone so soon.

Auntie Jane

Greg

   Tell your parents unless your brother stop this rudeness, you and your wife will not be attending anymore family dinners. Hopefully they will tell your brother to keep his mouth shut unless he has something pleasant to say to your wife. Have your parents for dinner at your place instead without him until he finds some manners.

Auntie Jane

 Teenager

   You're so lucky to have a Mom like this. Be thankful that she does this, when you have your own kids I guarantee you will do the same thing. Nothing wrong in showing affection to love ones.

Auntie Jane

Elsie M 

   No you are not wrong my dear, they are making your life more meaningful by showing love and spending time with you. Leave your other grandkids a memento of yourself or their grandfather. The other three I would acknowledge them as much as they do you. 

Auntie Jane

 Leila

   Probably when he feels like an ice cream cone and a quick lay. 

Auntie Jane

Unhappy

  Sounds to me like he wants to be married and lead a single life. I certainly wouldn't get pregnant with this guy, or you will be raising the child alone. You could go out with you're friends and not be home when he gets there, see how he likes this. But certainly not a good way to start a marriage. He sounds very immature and not ready for the commitment of marriage. It takes two to make a marriage work, that is why the divorce rate is so high. Talk to him and tell him if he wants to be single, then  he should leave before you put any more of your time into this relationship.

Auntie Jane

Greg

   Tell your parents unless your brother stop this rudeness, you and your wife will not be attending anymore family dinners. Hopefully they will tell your brother to keep his mouth shut unless he has something pleasant to say to your wife. Have your parents for dinner at your place instead without him.

Auntie Jane

  Janice

    Your future husband will take your virginity as a special time for you both. Tell him how you feel and I am sure he will make your special night perfect for you both. Just relax and take it slow and it will be fine.

Auntie Jane

 Had great sex

  One question , who is the floozy?

Auntie Jane

Willing

   Well, you wouldn't be charged with rape if you went for it. If you're just looking for a good roll in the hay why not.  Quite a bit of an age difference if you plan on keeping up this relationship. My concern would be what would you have in common except sex.  My question would be is he trying to date every available girl in the office and bed them? I just can't seem to put you in the same category as the widow of eighty-five.

Auntie Jane

Want to enjoy the time I have left

YOU GO FOR IT GIRL!  

Auntie Jane