Sometimes talking to a stranger reveals insights in oneself that do not manifest even when confiding with a best friend. There is a natural reticence to exposing our vulnerabilities.  Pride and embarrassment often prevent us from telling intimacies about ourselves to our immediate  family and friends. 

And if we do disclose these, 'secrets', the response elicited from such revelations may not actually  be answers at all.  Or advice.  The reply may be tempered by a point of view or closeness or previous knowledge of your situation. 

Asking Auntie Jane for comment has none of these restraints or preconceived notions regarding your personal needs or wants.  Her answers are forthright and sincere based upon the directness of your query. Perhaps not always the suggestion you want to hear, but given with wisdom, understanding and insightful thought that you too can solve whatever dilemma is causing shadow in your life. 

Give her the pertinent information and be honest with yourself, there is an answer.   There is a solution. Keep the faith. She will respond to all.

Asking Auntie Jane with her life experience,  just may guide you to resolve your troubles.

Send your personal questions to -  askauntiejane@hotmail.com

Greg

Dear Greg - 

   At your age the two of you should be having sex much more often. Has she been to a doctor  to see if everything is working properly with her body. That would be my first suggestion. You sound like you love her very much, so having an affair might not work for you. Have you tried to sexually turn her on with arousing her with a vibrator, or taking her somewhere different than your bedroom.  Some women take longer to be aroused and stimulated,  patience and keep trying different ways, reading and watching sex movies together may help.

Auntie Jane

Melanie

Dear Melanie  - 

   How sad for these women, maybe if they took more time on their own sex lives it would improve for them all. Just tell them you don't kiss and tell. Unless  you enjoy making them envious of your sexual tryst.   

Auntie Jane

want my own

Dear  WMO - 

   Maybe he is being unfair to you? Does he really want kids of his own or happy without them. How long does he want to wait?  At his age now he will be at retirement age by the time the kids go off to college. I would make sure you both are on the same page at wanting a family of your own.

Auntie Jane

Never date a married man

Dear  NDAMN- 

   Good for you dear girl. There is someone out there for you. Never settle for second best.  

Auntie Jane

Dear  ALL - 

   If the men in you're life cannot do something on this special day for you, then there is something very wrong with them,  Flowers, card,  chocolates or taking you out for a nice dinner or making you one at home. Doesn't take much to please the lady in your life. If he is the boyfriend dump him while you can, lover the same. Fiancée? Have a second look before planning the wedding. Wife, I have never advocated holding back sex as punishment but this is a very good reason to do so. Tell him you have no time while you're doing the dishes. Or let him cook his own meals for a couple of months and do his own laundry. I'm sure by next year he will run to the flower shop, make reservations or cook for his sweetheart.

After being with the same man for years, my husband never forgets.

Auntie Jane

Cathy

Dear  Cathy - 

   Three times that you know about, how many other times has he been unfaithful to you that you don't know about? It's time to move on girl, what happens once married and you have a couple of kids and you find out he is still playing around. You deserve better than what this man has to offer.  

Auntie Jane

Anita

Dear  Anita - 

   Your husband should suggest to his family that if they cannot be polite to you, they will certainly miss out on the grandchildren when you both decide to have them. They have no right to put pressure on him as this is between the two of you. Children should benefit from grandparents of both sides and the less friction the better. Have you really tried to get involved with his family?

Auntie Jane

Sis

Dear  SIS - 

   Doesn't sound to me that you are overweight. Have you shown the design to your sister? Usually the matron of honors dress is different in style and colors to compliment the other girls. Sounds like your sister is getting stressed out about nothing. Brides tend to do this. Be honest with her and tell her what you have told me.

Auntie Jane

Love and enjoy the whole act

Dear  LAETWA - 

   Next time you plan to have sex with him, run a bath and invite him to join you in the tub. Slowly start talking about how oral sex gets you sexually aroused and he will be the one to reap the benefits when you get so turned on. If he doesn't enjoy giving you this sexual enjoyment then maybe see if your old boyfriend is still around. Most guys love to keep their girlfriends happy and content.  Mean while your boyfriend will be nice and clean.

Auntie Jane

L@M

Dear L@M - 

    You say you have a good marriage, will it be good after you both see each with other partners? Only the two of you can decide this. Thoughts or talking about it is still in the 'fantasy' area, no harm in fantasy but  if you do go ahead then make sure you have protected sex and no pictures. They could come back to haunt both parties later. To each his own. If I were you I would think long and hard before making a decision like this one.

Auntie Jane

Shannon

Dear Shannon  - 

   NO!  Don't sleep with him let him go as he will hold you to ransom every time he wants his own way. He seems very immature and spoiled. Start dating other guys and if he is for you he will find his way back if not then he isn't the one for you. Males are like buss's there will always be another coming.

Auntie Jane

Hurting

Dear Hurting  - 

   You both should solve this before you plan on getting married. Doesn't sound like  their feelings will change marriage or not.  I would plan on going to your family this year and her parents might change by next Christmas, just don't count on it or their money. Some love to have a hold by promising money. They might see that their daughter is happy and hopefully they will be happy for her. Otherwise they will be the loser for being so foolish. The best to you both. Love always comes before money.     

Auntie Jane

Sister

Dear  Sister- 

   You cannot make someone like another person, so stop trying. Have you been neglecting you're sister since hooking up with this fellow. Maybe she feels she has lost you as her sister and friend. Make sure that you don't spend all the time with him and start making plans for just the two of you to do things together like you did before he came on the scene. Many girls forget about other friends after getting a boyfriend. Boys come and go but you will always have a sister so keep the communication on going with her.  No excuse for rudeness though.

Auntie Jane

Not bored stiff anymore

Dear NBSA- 

   So glad to hear from you, just don't let him backslide. lol 

Auntie Jane

Bored and wanting

Dear BAW - 

   Have you thought of any other ways of doing something with your life? A job, volunteering or getting a hobby that won't jeopardize your marriage?  If you decide on having an affair you might get more than you bargained for and end up single raising your children on your own. Not a good idea for boredom.

Auntie Jane

Unhappy and fat

Dear UAF - 

   Go to your Doctor and get his help. Sometimes it is good to go to Weight Watcher or another weight loss clinic as you meet others with the same problem. And they weigh you weekly. Be honest with your husband and ask him for his support as you want to get sex back into your marriage.

Auntie Jane

Erin

Dear  Erin - 

   Maybe your Mom would be fine if you just put a small amount of eyeliner on with a light lipstick to start with. Summer time most girls go very light on makeup as the natural look is much nicer. Less is best so if she see that you are only applying a slight amount she may allow it. Just don't overdo it and Mom might give you a little bit of slack. 

Auntie Jane

I am being faithful to him

Dear  IABFTH- 

   Sounds to me he is interested when he feels Horney, otherwise not so much. Time for you to move on to greener pastures.

Auntie Jane

Scared

Dear  Scared - 

   Just keep in mind that you are the one to call the shots. If he goes over the line in what you don't want to do then you have to be honest and tell him your limits. Sounds to me if you told him things you like they can't be far from what you expect sexually. Hopefully you have done some checking up on this person if not let someone know about him coming. He could be a very nice man who you have turned on with your  sexual banter. Hopefully he isn't a sadist or rapist. Do your homework before you meet him.

Auntie Jane

Betty

   Age doesn't mean a man cannot satisfy you, you just have not found the right person to turn you on. Younger or older what ever you try doesn't mean that one of these men will know what buttons to push. Give it time as I'm sure that your husband learned along the way. Don't be afraid to guide your lovers to what you want and expect. Be patient, Rome wasn't built in a day. You have many more years of sexual bliss to look forward to.

Auntie Jane

Melanie

Dear Melanie - 

 o    Maybe keep the two best ones and let Horney wife have the third one.  If you plan on having a baby with either one, then you should discuss it with the father to be.

Auntie Jane

Horney Wife 

   Your husband could have a medical problem and is far too young not to be having sex. Or he may have lost interested in you? Any signs of him having an affair? Is he worried about his job? Make an appointment and go see your doctor and tell him the problem and then get your husband in to see him on his own. An affair is just putting a band aid on this problem. But then again a band aid is better than nothing.        

Auntie Jane

Would like to make it a foursome

Dear  WLTMIAF - 

   Why not be honest and tell her what you have told me. Then give her a chance to listen to all of you. If she is on the same old problems speak up and tell her that you all have heard this one before. If she doesn't take the advice then she just likes to listen to herself talk.

Auntie Jane

Barry

Dear Barry  - 

Auntie Jane

Greg

Dear Greg - 

   So you feel guilty and under pressure and want to make you're wife feel terrible. If she is married I'm sure she wouldn't want her husband to find out about this affair, so I wouldn't worry about it. Be honest and break it off as it seems like you have bitten off more than you can chew. And maybe think twice about having anymore affairs.

Auntie Jane

Wondering what it would be like

Dear  WWIWBL - 

   I'm not saying you shouldn't experiment and find out about yourself sexually. But I wouldn't get into it with someone you work with. Could get very embarrassing if it didn't work out for the two of you. Remember you have to work with all these  co-workers and she might be one to kiss and tell. Sounds like she knows her sexuality if she hangs out in a gay bar. Why play dumb, she would appreciate your honesty.

Auntie Jane

Tiff     

Dear Tiff  - 

   Why reward someone for bad behavior. Dump him and tell him why. 

Auntie Jane

   My son has been married for 10 months.  Even before the wedding, I insisted they go for couples counseling. They went, but I did not ask for any details.
The 10 months have been very rocky. Neither have savings, neither have steady jobs, and both sets of in-laws are not in a position to help out much.
They appear to fight a lot. I believe they have no respect for each other and are both lazy.  I try not to interfere. Once I got a call from my son, just before a holiday, asking if he can come to us for the holiday, Him not them.  So I went to fetch him, and decided to take my daughter in law too, and let them try to work it out in my home rather than theirs.  It appeared to work.  They left loving each other again. And since then, the relationship has held although still rocky.

My son has just been retrenched, so he's home all day supposedly looking for work.  My daughter in  law now wants him to do all the housework.  He feels that when he was working and she was home all day, she did nothing, so he'll do some housework but she still has to do her things.  Both of them are Very messy and very lazy about house work.
Now she calls me and asks me to help get him to a psychologist because he's taking his depression over the job out on her, and not doing anything at home.
I don't think this calls for a psychologist yet.  I think both of them should do more to help each other. Should I stay out of this and how can I without being un-supportive? If I do get involved what do I do with them?

Rebecca 

   It is great to be supportive of family. Just try not to take sides with the two of them.  If they needed counseling before the marriage it does sound rocky now.  Any marriage needs an adjustment period, you might want to help them understand if they have a common goal? Money problems can often lead to separations. There are often small casual jobs on sites like Craigslist and local unemployment offices always have available help.  Will your son take any job temporarily? He needs to start somewhere. If your daughter-in-law is working then he needs to help out at home.

And they do sound immature in solving their own problems. They have to learn to have respect for each other and to stand on their own.  It’s fine for you to help out occasionally as long as they don’t become dependent on the family for money and you don’t become an enabler. Jobs are scarce but sometimes you have to take one that is below your level just to pay your way.

Ten months married, they will either work this marriage out or not. You can’t be the one to make it work for them. Depression needs to be diagnosed by a medical doctor. Then some action can be taken, but it seems they are just caught up in a hopeless situation right now and do need some direction.  
Try to be encouraging without taking over.  

Auntie Jane

Dee

Dear Dee - 

  Married women have affairs, sometimes with other women. It is still an affair even with a  same sex partner if you are married. A few things to think about before you decide; Are you just wanting to experiment with someone different from your husband? Are you sure you are attracted to other women sexually?  Or is this intrigue only a reflection of frustration with your current sex life. And I could ask if you are thinking about this NSA thing because your friend is doing it? Are you willing to lose your husband and family if you are found out? If you decide to have a relationship with another woman I wouldn’t be telling anyone, even your close friend.

I would give you the same advice if it was a male you were thinking of having this ‘affair’ with. You are the only one who can make this decision. As for an age range sensuality can be present in women of all ages, lesbians included.  You can't go to Lesbians-R-Us and pick one out. Sometimes you can throw caution to the winds and go for it, but it may not be gentle breezes.

Auntie Jane

Amorous

Dear  Amorous - 

  By your question are you just his lover and he really isn't your lover.

   Before he arrives have a long bath and phone him while in the tub. Talk to him about what you would like him to do when he arrives. Let him take the lead and lay back and let him know how much you enjoy the oral part of the sex act. If he doesn't take the hint drop him and find someone that wants to make you feel like you will make him feel. Sex is a two way street.

Auntie Jane

Tiffany

Dear  Tiffany - 

   Don't waste your time with  men that have a growth attached to them. You will always find married men whose wife's don't understand them. That line is so old, I wish they all had the brains for a new saying. Live-ins are in the same category. Join something that interests you and with summer coming lots of outdoor sports will be starting. Just don't look in bars as all you will find there is drinkers. Better single that have someone who is already taken. When you least expect the love of you're life to appear he will. Stop looking and just enjoy each challenge.

Auntie Jane

Mr. and Mrs.

Dear M and M - 

   There are no rules as far as I'm aware of on how many times a day, week or month that you can have sex. The old saying "use it or lose it may apply." So enjoy and certainly don't feel guilty as long as your both are enjoying and your health permits. Read my latest poll and you are right on. If you want to have it again this year go ahead.

Auntie Jane

Jen

Dear  Jen - 

   I think you may get more than you bargain for, if he is putting on a show because he knows you are watching him. All you will get is trouble and probably two broken marriages. Go find another hobby and stay away from you're windows when he is putting on his exhibition.  

Auntie Jane

Mildred

Dear Mildred  - 

   What is it you are looking for a threesome? You may be very embarrassed if you knock and one of them comes to the door naked. If you want to remain friends leave her alone the days she has told you she is not available. Go find your own lover.

Auntie Jane

Bob

Dear  Bob - 

   With your track record of two ex wives, I would suggest you find a place of your own and spend some time thinking of what you want to happen in your life. Most men want to be loved so jump into a relationship just to have someone. If it's the sex you are after that is easy to find. If it is a long term commitment I don't think you would be writing me  if she is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. She sounds like she is a stepping stone for you as you said you like her not love her. Spend time living alone and get to know yourself before any commitment.

Auntie Jane

Ginger   

Dear  Ginger - 

   Maybe neither one is the right one for you. I would start dating other guys and see what is out there. If you want to work and support the gigolo and have great sex then maybe he is the one for you. Lousy sex and money isn't the combo I would look for in a partner either. Don't settle so quickly, look around and see who is out there that has some of both attributes.

Auntie Jane

Trudy

Dear  Trudy - 

   Sorry you are missing out with the laughter in you're sex life. Laughter is the best medicine for a healthy lifestyle. Sex also keeps you young in heart and body. Tell your partner to turn off the sports and he might try turning you on and get more than he bargained for. If that doesn't work tell him sex is a sport and you might start looking for new team mates.

Auntie Jane

K and C

Dear K and C- 

   What a nice normal couple, sex is suppose to be fun and boisterous.  You could pass on the jokes so we all can laugh too.

Auntie Jane

Irene

Dear Irene  - 

    Have you tried putting on your housecoat with nothing on underneath and going out in the cold garage and ask him if he would please keep you warm with some loving? If that doesn't work blow up his car and lose the competition.

Auntie Jane

Harry

Dear Harry - 

   How many times have I heard that my wife doesn't understand me. Yes she does get half of everything, but are you only giving her a half hearted effort in the bedroom? I get a distinct feeling that perhaps you might expect her to be pleasing you when it should be mutual. You could visit a sexual counselor together. Or she could go see her gynecologist to see if she has something wrong for her not to attain many climaxes having sex. If she is fine then maybe you need to learn a few techniques on how to turn her on and enjoy sex with you. OMO.

Auntie Jane

Eleanor

Dear  Eleanor - 

   Glad your entertained and jump right in,  after all you are anonymous. You  don't have to take my advice, just my opinion and I certainly have those. lol

Auntie Jane

Christina

Dear Christina - 

   If this guy hasn't paid any attention to you in six months, you should have got the message by now. He probably has someone at home that is more interesting than you. Just for the future never go to a bar that a guy goes to with his buddies hoping to get picked up. Look for another place to hunt.

Auntie Jane

Sue

Dear  Sue - 

   I don't see any reason why not, hopefully you and your ex are on speaking terms and still get along. If it was an amicable separation he probably won't mind. Although at this point it's none of his business. If it was a messy divorce it may be a good idea to find some new friends to date.  Or if you're into vengeance you could do ALL his friends.  Kidding of course ...................... Maybe not!.

Auntie Jane

Bev

Dear  Bev - 

   And many of these people walk amongst us. 

Auntie Jane

Sara

Dear  Sara - 

   Your walking a narrow line here, what happens if you do fall in love with a lover. At fifty I am assuming your life is established with a loving husband and children. Ask yourself is it because your just feeling bored, going through the change of life or just want more male attention. If you answer yes to all three find another hobby.

Auntie Jane

Caitlin

Dear Caitlin - 

   If he has been having unprotected sex with all the office and your even contemplating going to bed with him your crazy. You don't say you love you're husband, if your not in love with him why stay married? Marriage is not all about sex, but it certainly helps a relationship. Maybe its you not pushing the right buttons for him.

Auntie Jane

Kate's family

Dear K F- 

   Very simply  don't invite them this year and let them all fight in someone else's house.

Auntie Jane

Connie

Dear  Connie - 

   Maybe bring up the subject with him. It's early in the relationship at this point to buy each other a gift, could suggest a dinner out to celebrate" Dutch" treat. Or a nice bottle of wine for a toast to each other.

Auntie Jane

Kelly and Ron

Dear  Kelly and Ron - 

   You ask who is the crazy one. I would say your Mom and you. Your Mom sounds like she hasn't let go of you and you sound like a spoiled brat. It might take longer to get your own place, but then Ron would still be with you to enjoy it. Children revert back to kids when they go back home to live with their parents, not a good scenario.   

Auntie Jane

Lacy

Dear  Lacy - 

   Yes I have, my definition would be that you love orgasms and every chance you have of having one you take it. Maybe  they are just  jealous  

Auntie Jane

Anonymous

Dear Anonymous - 

   You must know already that it would be cheating or you would have signed your name. You must have told this friend about your lack on orgasms, isn't that a flirt.  If you want me to say go ahead fine, but it is still classified as cheating but then again its only a orgasm. 

Auntie Jane

Alisha

Dear Alisha - 

   What your parents do is really not your concern. Maybe your Mom knows and just doesn't want to deal with it. Tell your Dad that you would like to talk to him about it and if he wants to he will. Otherwise leave it alone.

Auntie Jane

L@M

Dear L@M - 

    You say you have a good marriage, will it be good after you both see each with other partners? Only the two of you can decide this. Thoughts or talking about it is still in the 'fantasy' area, no harm no foul, but  if you do go ahead then make sure you have protected sex and no pictures. They could come back to haunt both parties later. To each his own.

Auntie Jane

Anonymous

Dear Anonymous - 

   I don't think your weird, you just seem to know what you like. Nothing wrong with that.

Auntie Jane

Kate @ Leila

Dear K@L - 

   Sorry I'm not a mind reader, why not just go with the flow and enjoy each others company for the time. Sometimes it will fade out or maybe not. 

Auntie Jane

Ken

Dear  Ken - 

   Some women need hormones to get past this stage. Hopefully she will go see her doctor as there is no reason for you both not to have a active sex life as she is going through this natural progression in life. Some women get more sexually active when going through menopause, some don't. Be patient and maybe try stimulating her more before the act. One suggestion keep the bedroom window open for a natural draft.

Auntie Jane

Best friend

Dear BF - 

   Be a best friend and keep your mouth shut. Just because someone is having a coffee together doesn't mean that anything else is going on. 

Auntie Jane

Ben

Dear Ben - 

   Same advice to you Ben, hope you get better service from the waiters though. Live, laugh and be happy.  

Auntie Jane

Marty

Dear Marty - 

   Sounds like they have help to keep them in their own place. Older people do much better when living together on their own unless their health is not good. You can always get help to come in more often if you see that they are not eating properly and taking care of their hygiene. Until that time arrives leave them to enjoy their time together.   

Auntie Jane

Fuming wife

  Some men just love to flirt as it builds their ego. At least he isn't doing it behind your back and it's out in the open. He is probably harmless and likes to see the reaction if any he gets back from the women he is flirting with.  Ignore him and don't you react and he may stop, just don't count on it. 

Auntie Jane

Sad and lonely

Dear  SAL - 

   Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get out and join things that interest you. You have to realize your life has changed and will never be the same without your husband, but life goes on and it's up to you to make an effort to socialize or you will end up an old uninteresting women. Why not go out with this man that calls, he might have just been making conversation. You have no children so why worry about your assets at this stage. Its acceptable for you to call him too.

Auntie Jane

Want sex on Sundays

Dear  WSS - 

   Its your husbands parents let him deal with them. He can say you both will try and make it once a month. Then after brunch go home and enjoy the rest of your day together. No reason newly weds cannot make time through the week too. Or maybe you just don't want to go see his family and using this as an excuse. Your call.

Auntie Jane

Sexy in Nevada

Dear SIN  - 

 Only you can decide, Pandora, sounds like he has an itch that he wants scratched.   

Auntie Jane

Grandmother and Granddad .

Dear  GAG  - 

   Just because you're grandparents doesn't mean you are dead from the waist down. BUT, the key words for me were, "... you felt like twenty again."  It would be considered cheating if you decided to have sex before or after the drinks.  I have a feeling you have already made up your mind.

 “Anything worth having is a thing worth cheating for.”
~ W. C. Fields

Auntie Jane

Erin

Dear Erin - 

   Why would you bother with these people? Tell them all it's one day to get along and get through. If they can't do that then to stay home. If some choose not to come it's their loss. If you have friends with no family invite them,  sometimes people will be on their best behavior when strangers are around. They'll want to pretend they're better than yelling and screaming, and you can pretend you're enjoying the day.

Auntie Jane

good good neighbors

Dear  N- 

   I would tell her to mind her own business and keep her gossip to herself. What you do is none of anyone's business, and tell her to go find a hobby and stay out of your life. Maybe she is jealousy, that she isn't getting any of the neighbors action.

Auntie Jane

MMV

Dear MMV - 

   Simple, stop giving him  BJ's . I'm sure he will come to realize both of you should be enjoying yourselves.

Auntie Jane

I got an e-mail saying you shouldn't have to quit your job.

    The person commented that you can buy a lot of crème for the bruises . So take either advice.

Auntie Jane

Kathy K

Dear Kathy K - 

Guess you have to decide if the tips are worth the bruises. Or get another job.

Auntie Jane

  My boyfriend dumped me three months ago while I was looking after my dying Dad. I was left a large amount in his will. Now my boyfriend wants me to come back to him, I don't know if it's me or the money he is interested in. Should I consider taking him back?  

Money or me

Dear  MOM - 

 HELLO, give you're head a shake, of course it's the money. If it is a large amount get some financial advice and not from him.

Auntie Jane

Richard

Dear  Richard - 

   Maybe get Mommy to arrange a play date, or pay a call girl and get what you're looking for.   

Auntie Jane

Rachael

Dear  Rachael  - 

    If he treats you like this and you're not even married what happens if you get married? A relationship isn't about him getting satisfied with sex and a pizza and his sports programs. You need to be wined and dined and romanced. If he is not willing to be that person dump him and move on with you're life. 

Auntie Jane

Markus

Dear Markus - 

   There are many fetishes, so no harm if she allows you the pleasure. If I were her I would make sure I had a pedicure beforehand though.

Auntie Jane

Mavis

   It would not hurt to notify the police, so it's on record. Has there been any action at the bank with withdrawals? They must have money to survive. I would withdraw all moneys and check your credit cards. Tell your neighbor to do the same, then at least you will hear from them when they run short of money. It is only you that can decide what to do when they surface. Make it clear to your jilted neighbor that you have no interest in starting a revenge relationship with him. Oh yes, and change your locks, campers get musty in the winter.

Auntie Jane

Patty

   Not all guys are pigs, did you find this one in a sty. Move on, there are many nice guys out there and you deserve better than the oinks he has to offer.

Auntie Jane

Mark

   Did you leave your balls at the job? You need to tell her not to make plans before she checks with you. Retirement is to be enjoyed by both of you, so make it clear that you intend to have your own time without her. She needs to get involved without you beside her everyday. Show her this answer.  

Auntie Jane

Group of eight

   Are you the only one that thinks this way in your group? I look at my friends as great dinner companion with good conversation to break bread with and could care less at what they choose to serve me. You say that these friends are cheap, have you ever considered what they serve is what they can afford and maybe  they're not  the best cooks. You can go out for dinner anytime for a gourmet meal  and miss the friendship of good people, that are called friends. You could drop them from your menu but might find that something is missing. With your snobbish attitude I wouldn't be interested in your program.

Auntie Jane

Molly

   Four years of college for him and maybe eight more for you to finish school and college. I would suggest to him that maybe you both should see others and see him at Christmas. If your meant to be together in the end it will happen, but you both should enjoy the teenage years. Doesn't mean that you cannot communicate with Skype and texting while apart.

Auntie Jane

Sandra

Dear  Sandra -  

   He doesn't seem to be committed to you, like you are to him.  I would tell him to move out and decide if you are the one for him. Better to find this out before you start making wedding plans. Why would he want marriage when he has everything now without it.  

Auntie Jane

Cass

   Maybe they have talent. And you didn't have to tell me you where blond.

Auntie Jane

Frank

   Why would either of you move? Are you afraid he might jump your bones while sleeping. Grow up he was gay before you knew he was gay. Some people would call you homophobic.

Auntie Jane

Persia

   Go to your school counselor when you get back to school, tell her about your problems.  I am sure it is hard for your parents to make adjustment in their lifestyle because they were brought up so differently. Your father has to be made to understand that he has to give his children freedom or he will lose them as they grow older. Ask your brother to talk to him as a male and that you and your sister respect him but he also has to respect you two girls in return. If your mother is not happy to cover her face then she has to speak up and be heard in your household. I am sure your father came to this country to make a better life for all of you. Hopefully he will see his mistakes before it's too late.

Auntie Jane

Lilly

    I'm sure he noticed you and has moved on to someone else who may be a bit more hard to get. You should move on and think twice about sleeping with someone so soon.

Auntie Jane

Greg

   Tell your parents unless your brother stop this rudeness, you and your wife will not be attending anymore family dinners. Hopefully they will tell your brother to keep his mouth shut unless he has something pleasant to say to your wife. Have your parents for dinner at your place instead without him until he finds some manners.

Auntie Jane

 Teenager

   You're so lucky to have a Mom like this. Be thankful that she does this, when you have your own kids I guarantee you will do the same thing. Nothing wrong in showing affection to love ones.

Auntie Jane

Elsie M 

   No you are not wrong my dear, they are making your life more meaningful by showing love and spending time with you. Leave your other grandkids a memento of yourself or their grandfather. The other three I would acknowledge them as much as they do you. 

Auntie Jane

 Leila

   Probably when he feels like an ice cream cone and a quick lay. 

Auntie Jane

Unhappy

  Sounds to me like he wants to be married and lead a single life. I certainly wouldn't get pregnant with this guy, or you will be raising the child alone. You could go out with you're friends and not be home when he gets there, see how he likes this. But certainly not a good way to start a marriage. He sounds very immature and not ready for the commitment of marriage. It takes two to make a marriage work, that is why the divorce rate is so high. Talk to him and tell him if he wants to be single, then  he should leave before you put any more of your time into this relationship.

Auntie Jane

Greg

   Tell your parents unless your brother stop this rudeness, you and your wife will not be attending anymore family dinners. Hopefully they will tell your brother to keep his mouth shut unless he has something pleasant to say to your wife. Have your parents for dinner at your place instead without him.

Auntie Jane

  Janice

    Your future husband will take your virginity as a special time for you both. Tell him how you feel and I am sure he will make your special night perfect for you both. Just relax and take it slow and it will be fine.

Auntie Jane

 Had great sex

  One question , who is the floozy?

Auntie Jane

Willing

   Well, you wouldn't be charged with rape if you went for it. If you're just looking for a good roll in the hay why not.  Quite a bit of an age difference if you plan on keeping up this relationship. My concern would be what would you have in common except sex.  My question would be is he trying to date every available girl in the office and bed them? I just can't seem to put you in the same category as the widow of eighty-five.

Auntie Jane

Want to enjoy the time I have left

YOU GO FOR IT GIRL!  

Auntie Jane